The Hardest Language

No, it is not English, German, Chinese, Arabic, or Japanese. The hardest language to speak, in my opinion, is honesty. We are born to speak this language but somewhere along the lines, we forget it. In a society where authenticity is becoming scarce, this language becomes more important. Maybe if we understand “why,” we will be able to figure out “how” to bring back this language.

Everywhere around us, we can see people pretending to be who they are not. Maybe they are imitating because they do not want to accept who they are or they simply want to “fit in.” If you don’t accept who you are, then how can you understand what you want. If you have to change yourself to “fit in,” then maybe you were meant to stand out. From my understanding, a society flourishes through different perspectives and personalities, not the same.

Social media has allowed us to connect with one another in a revolutionary way. By following the “rich and famous” we think we understand them. We try to compare ourselves to their “perfect” lives. What we don’t realize is that everything we see is an illusion of what they really feel. It is a snapshot of a fake emotion they put on to get approval. It has become a way of valuing our worth based on a character we pretend to be.

I often ignored my emotions and was afraid of what others may think. I was afraid of standing out from the crowd based on my interests and passions. I wanted to simply “fit in” with the rest, so I would pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I was obsessed with Instagram and Snapchat. I would compare their “perfect” lives to mine. Little did I realize it was all an act.

Your mind and body are constantly giving you signals. Eventually, I started feeling bad about myself and was not happy with who I was becoming. Every time I would lie, I started asking myself “why.” When I started listening to myself, I realized how wrong I truly was. There is a reason I was meant to stand out. There is a reason I was given opportunities to learn. There is a reason why I made this blog. I realized how wrong it was to value my worth based on a number from a screen.

I still struggle with this language, but I am constantly improving. I am becoming more aware of when I strive off. Without authenticity, we lack innovation. Without innovation, we lack growth. I urge you to become more aware of every time you stop using this language and ask yourself: “why?” You see, when we understand the “why” the “how” will come naturally.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! This has probably been one of my most personal ones. I would love to hear your thoughts down below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about opportunities.

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Impact of Habits

What if I told you the way we live our life today, defines how we live our lives tomorrow. Every decision we make and every action we do impacts our future outcomes. How is this possible?

Recently, I read “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy. Darren Hardy, the creator of success magazine, has interviewed numerous successful individuals such as Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, and Warren Buffet. “The Compound Effect” is based on the one trait that they all have in common: consistency in their habits.

What we do every single day compounds to something great in the future. The idea is to have realistic daily habits that you can maintain long term. For example, one of my goals is to grow the LGA Lifestyle brand and make it a well-known community dedicated to self-growth. To achieve this, I interact with at least forty-five different posts and accounts related to my niche. Most of the time, I lose track and go over! I had originally started with ninety and realized it was not a habit I would be able to maintain long term. Since I will be starting graduate school in the fall, I wanted to make sure I pick a habit that I can do every single day. At the end of the day, it is about being consistent not about speed.

When we start focusing on speed instead of slow and steady progress, we have the chance of losing consistency. For example, another one of my goals is to get to 10% body fat. I used to go to gym five and sometimes even seven times a week for two hours! I got burnt out very quickly and took a one to two-month break. This cycle went on for a while. Taking those breaks in the middle takes you back to where you started. You lose discipline in your diet, as well as, motivation to continue. Now, I have made it a habit to work out at least life three times a week for an hour and have a flexible diet that fits within my macros. I have started seeing slow and steady results. The key is consistency.

Even if your habit is to read fifteen minutes a day, you will eventually finish that book. It helps to break down your goals down day by day, habit by habit. We have to start by having great days to have a great future.

I appreciate your time in reading this post! I would love to hear your daily habits and goals you are trying to achieve! Tune in next Sunday to learn about the hardest language to learn!

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The Subconscious

The subconscious mind has the power to make or break our future. It is extremely undervalued in our society. If we take the time to understand and learn how to control it, then we will have the ability to create our own future.

Everything we do is rooted from the subconscious mind. Our subconscious is able to take a thought and convert it into its physical action. It does not matter whether it is a positive or negative thought. As long as it is convicted with emotion or faith, the subconscious mind will take it in. How can we control what it takes in?

The conscious mind is able to act as a filter between the outside world and the subconscious mind. Therefore, you can control the thoughts you want to let in and the ones you want to avoid. How can we make the conscious mind do this?

Most of us, including me at times, spend a lot of time thinking about the past or worrying about the future. This causes us to lose a grasp of the present. This does not mean you should not learn from the past or prepare for the future. It just means you should not let it consume you. When you start spending most of your time in the present, you can see everything much more clearly. Time, surprisingly, slows down because you become less anxious. This, of course, is easier said than done.

I would spend so much of time regretting things I did in the past or worry about my future. This would bring so much stress and make things much more complicated than it needed to be. What helped me slow things down was meditating. Even if it was for five minutes, it gave me the ability to live in the present. Once I became aware, I realized how much more control I had over my thoughts. There are numerous ways of living in the present, meditation is just what works for me. I suggest you explore a few to see what works best for you.

Thank you so much for your time! I would love to read your thoughts down below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about the impact of habits.

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The Power of Thought

“If you think you are beaten, you are,

if you think you dare not, you don’t

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.”

Walter D. Wintle

I would like to start this blog by talking about mindset. We spend so much time making sure we have a healthy body and try to maintain a proper diet. What about our mind?

Our mind controls every thing we do, yet we spend little to no time understanding it. I found this wonderful poem by Walter D. Wintle while I was reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. The underlying message to this poem is: whatever we spend time thinking about, is what we achieve. If you think about losing, you will loose. If you think about failing, you will fail. If you think that your skills are not good enough to get that job, then they certainly will not be. What I understood is that your number one fan should be you. If you cannot believe in yourself, then how do you expect someone else to? Ultimately, when you learn to control your thoughts, you will learn to control your life. Of course, this is easier said than done.

Thinking a certain way for a long time can turn into a habit or a lifestyle. Most people cannot change such things overnight. It takes a lot of patience and persistence. What worked for me is catching myself every time I doubted myself or thought of anything negative. Once you start being aware of your thoughts, you will eventually be able to control it. I am no expert. Everyone is different and this is just what worked for me.

If you have anymore methods of controlling your thoughts, please share in this community! I encourage everyone to try this simple exercise and let me know your results. I hope this helps on your journey to become the best version of yourself. I look forward to seeing you next Sunday to learn about the subconscious mind!

“The best project you’ll work on is you.”

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About Me

Hello everyone,

My name is Nikhil Biju and I am a Mechanical Engineering Graduate Student at the University of Kansas. I have wanted to start this blog for a while now and I finally got the courage to do it.

Around the second year of my undergrad, I realized that most of the people I was spending my time with did not have the same mentality as me. I was never much of a reader. Through out my time at school I got by just reading notes online or guessing on the plot. Throughout school I was a good student, however it was hard for me put in the time to read things that did not resonate with me. My first book was Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. I was gifted the book by a friend. I finished that book within a week. It was not a very long book but it was a huge milestone for me. Time flew as I read that book. I realized the reason I liked it was because I could relate to it. I come from a middle class family. Throughout my child hood I was always looking for a role model. This book allowed me to create a better visual of what type of role model I was looking for. How can you hit something, if you do not know what you are aiming for? This book opened the doors to a whole new perspective of the world for me.

I kept reading but I never acted upon anything I was learning. Knowledge without action is completely useless. I was afraid of what others would think of me. Towards the end of my sophomore year I was extremely stressed and worried about my future. During this time, my friend had suggested me to watch a documentary by Tony Robbins on Netflix. After watching that documentary, my life had completely changed. I remember crying from the documentary. There are so many misconceptions that are placed by society. For example, we are constantly told to hold in our emotions or “real men don’t cry.” It is shown as a sign of weakness. In reality, this is far from the truth. If we want to laugh with our heats out then we must learn to pour our heart out first. I believe showing emotion is a sign of bravery and courage. It shows that others’ opinion do not effect you and you appreciate who you are. Ever since then, I have wanted to create a community for like-minded individuals.

LGA stands for learn, grow, and achieve. This blog is for those individuals who are trying to break out of the norm and just don’t know how. Remember: if you want to be extraordinary, then you cannot conform to the ordinary. Every week I will post something valuable I learned and great lessons that I learned from a book I’m reading. I want you to use this as a resource to become the best version of yourself. Everything I say in this blog will be honest and my opinion. I am looking forward to connecting with you and hope fully making your life just a bit better.

“The best project you’ll work on is you.”

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