Perspective

We often have to deal with situations where we believe we have no choice or control over it. We feel we are limited by our circumstances and have to deal the consequences no matter what. Maybe it’s not our circumstances that limit us. Maybe it’s our perspective.

I believe there are multiple perspectives for every situation. For example, there are two distinct perspectives for facing struggles or challenges. You can dread it and keep asking yourself: “why does this happen to me?” or you can use it as an opportunity and ask: “what can I learn from this?” We are defined by the perspective we choose.

Understanding different perspectives can also allow us to understand each other. In a society that is keen on labeling every individual based on a few distinct characteristics, we are often too quick to judge and are never able to understand one another wholly. I made numerous mistakes where I judged someone based on how they talk or dress and didn’t bother to get to know them further. This narrow mindset has prevented me from making numerous valuable relationships. I have realized the best way to overcome judging anyone is taking the time to understand them. Instead of only seeing a few pieces of the puzzle, we need to step back and understand the whole picture.

Even time has multiple perspectives. We can see time as a thief that takes away your days. Or, you can see it as a benevolent giver that gifts you every moment. Whether it’s joyous or despair, understand that it is temporary.

Taking the time to understand different perspectives has redefined my perception of the world. I have realized that nothing can be defined by one perspective; rather, it is a combination.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! I would love to hear your thoughts down below! Tune in next Sunday to read about fear.

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Values

We live in a society that strives on rules. Each one has its own set of values and restrictions. We are rewarded for following them and punished for disobeying. It is a vital ingredient for maintaining peace and harmony. Why are we missing this same ingredient when it comes to ourselves?

Just like society, every individual needs to have their own rules. It gives us a sense of purpose and illustrates who we are. These rules are values that you live by and stand for. They are things you have been taught by your past and you want to live for in your future. It is what you want everyone else to remember you as. Even if it changes, your values are something that should resonate with you on a spiritual level.

I am very indecisive. There have been numerous times where I freeze up and simply can’t decide what I want. I didn’t think too much of it until recently. After doing a lot of self-reflection, I realized these moments stem from a much deeper root. I simply did not understand who I was. I had to create a set of rules for myself that would guide me for making minuscule to life-changing decisions. When realizing my values, I didn’t simply think about it and move on. I understood that if I wanted to root these values, then I must take more time in understanding myself and visualizing exactly what these would mean. Essentially, I had to take the time to understand each and every one. I took about a week or so and wrote down seven values that I would strictly follow.

These values can’t be found on the internet or a book. They must come from you! You define your own purpose and visualize the person you want to become. You visualize the type of partner, son, daughter, friend, leader, etc… From that visualization, you determine how you can grow to achieve that.

Defining my values didn’t eliminate my indecisiveness, but it did reduce it. Just like anything, your values have to be practiced. It is still difficult for me to stand by these rules. What helps me is remembering why I wrote them in the first place and my purpose. I look at my list of values every single day. Every time I look I ask my self: “Did I stand by these rules today?” Peace has to be found within ourselves before we can look to find it in the world.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! I would love to hear any and all your values down below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about perspective.

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Trust

Trust is one of the most powerful beliefs in our society. It can take years to build, yet, seconds to destroy. Everyone wants to be trusted and thrive on it. That is why it is important to understand how it works. I am currently reading The Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey and learned that it is built upon four qualities: integrity, intent, capabilities, and results.

Integrity has a very narrow connotation in our society. It is not just being the “nice guy.” It is following through with commitments that you make both to yourself and others. It means to be understanding and open to new perspectives. It is about having the courage to stand up for your beliefs no matter how many people are supporting you. I made a lot of commitments to myself and others that I would either forget or not follow through on. I always agreed with the crowd and never really defined my own values. This made it difficult for the ones around me to trust my judgment.

We judge ourselves based on our intent and others judge us based on our behavior.

Stephen M.R. Covey

Intent is knowing your reasons behind your actions. So many of us continue our lives without understanding our “why.” If you want to gain genuine trust then it has to come from a caring motive. You have to show that your “why” is about caring and for mutual benefit. There also has to be an agenda. We can have a motive for what we do but without a plan, we get nowhere. Having a motive defines your “why” and having an agenda defines your “how.” Finally, we have to take action. We can have the right motive and a great agenda but if we never take action, then we stay the same. There have been a lot of times where I would have the right motive and a detailed agenda but was too afraid to take action.

Trust cannot be achieved if you do not know your capabilities. You have to know your strengths. We are taught that we should focus on our weaknesses and try to improve them. I have realized that you get more benefit from focusing on your strengths and then surrounding yourself with individuals who make up for your weaknesses. Trust is something that needs to be maintained. A programmer this year has much more advanced skills that a programmer ten years ago. So, to maintain trust you have to keep improving. It becomes tough to trust someone to get future results when they are only using the tactics of the past. Finally, it is tough to hit a target if you do not know what you are aiming for. If you don’t know what your end goal is, then it is difficult for anyone, even yourself, to trust you. Having a detailed goal allowed me to better communicate with my peers.

The final quality needed to build trust is results. You can have all the other three qualities but if you aren’t producing results it is difficult for anyone to trust you. There are three actions that can be taken to improve your results. First, you have to take responsibility for your results. Even if it is good or bad. More often than not, we are told to take responsibilities for our actions. However, when taking responsibility for our results as well, we are able to be more innovative. For example, my needed result is losing 2% body fat. Instead of only focusing on the small activities in between- maintaining a proper diet, working out a certain amount of times a weak, reps, and weights- I also focus on the end result. This allows me to have an open mind and understand there are multiple ways of achieving that result. Second, you have to expect to win. It takes the same amount of effort to think about your downfall as it does to think about your success. If you expect yourself to lose, then why are you trying in the first place? Finally, whatever the consequences are you have to finish strong. This concept goes back to the idea of maintaining your commitments. When we face an obstacle we can either use it as an excuse to quit or a chance to pivot and change direction. Whatever we chose is what ultimately defines us.

Trust has always been a difficult thing for me. After reading this book, I have realized why. I understood that if we want to build trust with others, then we first have to trust ourselves. Every time you break a commitment- even as small as waking up at a time you have decided to or not defending your values, you are losing trust in yourself. This post is for those people who may be in the same position. Do not simply read this and move on. I want you to take action!

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! I would love to read your thoughts! Tune in next Sunday to learn about values.

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Opportunities

Throughout our lives, we are given moments where we have the ability to change the course of our whole journey. I believe you are constantly given choices but it is up to you to realize whether it’s an opportunity. Looking back at my own life, I have realized that there have been multiple opportunities that have gotten me to where I am today.

At six years old, I was given the opportunity to come to the United States of America to study. Coming in without even knowing how to introduce myself, I could have easily given up and asked for my parents to take me back. My parents knew what was best for me and I trusted their judgment. Now fifteen years later, I am grateful for where I am today and the sacrifices they had to make.

At sixteen years old, I was given the opportunity to move to Overland Park. Coming to a brand new high-school as a junior not knowing anyone, I could have asked my parents to move back to Topeka. I trusted my parents, again, and believed their judgment was correct. Now five years later, I have made some of the best friends in my life from that decision.

At eighteen years old, I was told that I had to complete my undergraduate degree before I was twenty-one if I wanted to stay in the country. Due to visa restrictions, I had to stand out from the crowd. My parents told me that I did not have to go through with it and go back to India if I wanted. I chose to stay and finish what I started. Now three years later, I have realized skills in me that I had no idea I had.

I met my first mentor at a gas station. He simply asked me what my future goals were. I responded with my plan of eventually becoming a business owner. We met at Starbucks later that week and discussed our passions. That simple conversation has led me to learn so much about what it means to have goals and how to achieve them.

I met my second mentor through my parents. I was going through a tough time deciding whether I should go to graduate school or in the workforce. I briefly talked to him for five minutes and I knew what I should do. I could have stopped that relationship right there but I didn’t. Now almost two years later, he has given me priceless knowledge about spirituality and finding your passion.

When I made these decisions, I had no idea they were opportunities. These are only a few that have benefitted me. There are probably hundreds that I have missed and did not take. I have recently realized there are multiple perspectives to every situation. It is up to us to choose the right one. You see, we are not defined by the cards we are dealt with. We are defined by how we play them.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! I would love to hear your thoughts below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about trust!

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The Hardest Language

No, it is not English, German, Chinese, Arabic, or Japanese. The hardest language to speak, in my opinion, is honesty. We are born to speak this language but somewhere along the lines, we forget it. In a society where authenticity is becoming scarce, this language becomes more important. Maybe if we understand “why,” we will be able to figure out “how” to bring back this language.

Everywhere around us, we can see people pretending to be who they are not. Maybe they are imitating because they do not want to accept who they are or they simply want to “fit in.” If you don’t accept who you are, then how can you understand what you want. If you have to change yourself to “fit in,” then maybe you were meant to stand out. From my understanding, a society flourishes through different perspectives and personalities, not the same.

Social media has allowed us to connect with one another in a revolutionary way. By following the “rich and famous” we think we understand them. We try to compare ourselves to their “perfect” lives. What we don’t realize is that everything we see is an illusion of what they really feel. It is a snapshot of a fake emotion they put on to get approval. It has become a way of valuing our worth based on a character we pretend to be.

I often ignored my emotions and was afraid of what others may think. I was afraid of standing out from the crowd based on my interests and passions. I wanted to simply “fit in” with the rest, so I would pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I was obsessed with Instagram and Snapchat. I would compare their “perfect” lives to mine. Little did I realize it was all an act.

Your mind and body are constantly giving you signals. Eventually, I started feeling bad about myself and was not happy with who I was becoming. Every time I would lie, I started asking myself “why.” When I started listening to myself, I realized how wrong I truly was. There is a reason I was meant to stand out. There is a reason I was given opportunities to learn. There is a reason why I made this blog. I realized how wrong it was to value my worth based on a number from a screen.

I still struggle with this language, but I am constantly improving. I am becoming more aware of when I strive off. Without authenticity, we lack innovation. Without innovation, we lack growth. I urge you to become more aware of every time you stop using this language and ask yourself: “why?” You see, when we understand the “why” the “how” will come naturally.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! This has probably been one of my most personal ones. I would love to hear your thoughts down below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about opportunities.

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Impact of Habits

What if I told you the way we live our life today, defines how we live our lives tomorrow. Every decision we make and every action we do impacts our future outcomes. How is this possible?

Recently, I read “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy. Darren Hardy, the creator of success magazine, has interviewed numerous successful individuals such as Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, and Warren Buffet. “The Compound Effect” is based on the one trait that they all have in common: consistency in their habits.

What we do every single day compounds to something great in the future. The idea is to have realistic daily habits that you can maintain long term. For example, one of my goals is to grow the LGA Lifestyle brand and make it a well-known community dedicated to self-growth. To achieve this, I interact with at least forty-five different posts and accounts related to my niche. Most of the time, I lose track and go over! I had originally started with ninety and realized it was not a habit I would be able to maintain long term. Since I will be starting graduate school in the fall, I wanted to make sure I pick a habit that I can do every single day. At the end of the day, it is about being consistent not about speed.

When we start focusing on speed instead of slow and steady progress, we have the chance of losing consistency. For example, another one of my goals is to get to 10% body fat. I used to go to gym five and sometimes even seven times a week for two hours! I got burnt out very quickly and took a one to two-month break. This cycle went on for a while. Taking those breaks in the middle takes you back to where you started. You lose discipline in your diet, as well as, motivation to continue. Now, I have made it a habit to work out at least life three times a week for an hour and have a flexible diet that fits within my macros. I have started seeing slow and steady results. The key is consistency.

Even if your habit is to read fifteen minutes a day, you will eventually finish that book. It helps to break down your goals down day by day, habit by habit. We have to start by having great days to have a great future.

I appreciate your time in reading this post! I would love to hear your daily habits and goals you are trying to achieve! Tune in next Sunday to learn about the hardest language to learn!

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The Subconscious

The subconscious mind has the power to make or break our future. It is extremely undervalued in our society. If we take the time to understand and learn how to control it, then we will have the ability to create our own future.

Everything we do is rooted from the subconscious mind. Our subconscious is able to take a thought and convert it into its physical action. It does not matter whether it is a positive or negative thought. As long as it is convicted with emotion or faith, the subconscious mind will take it in. How can we control what it takes in?

The conscious mind is able to act as a filter between the outside world and the subconscious mind. Therefore, you can control the thoughts you want to let in and the ones you want to avoid. How can we make the conscious mind do this?

Most of us, including me at times, spend a lot of time thinking about the past or worrying about the future. This causes us to lose a grasp of the present. This does not mean you should not learn from the past or prepare for the future. It just means you should not let it consume you. When you start spending most of your time in the present, you can see everything much more clearly. Time, surprisingly, slows down because you become less anxious. This, of course, is easier said than done.

I would spend so much of time regretting things I did in the past or worry about my future. This would bring so much stress and make things much more complicated than it needed to be. What helped me slow things down was meditating. Even if it was for five minutes, it gave me the ability to live in the present. Once I became aware, I realized how much more control I had over my thoughts. There are numerous ways of living in the present, meditation is just what works for me. I suggest you explore a few to see what works best for you.

Thank you so much for your time! I would love to read your thoughts down below! Tune in next Sunday to learn about the impact of habits.

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