Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell

My whole life I believed that focusing on your strengths and following your passion is all you needed to become successful. It wasn’t until I read Outliers, by Malcolm Gladwell, I realized how important seeking opportunities and understanding your background is, as well.

Malcolm studies the elites in athletics, academia, business, etc.. and discovers patterns in their lives that make them who they are today. What he discovers is that everything, in a way, is predefined. He discovers how the most talented and working individuals cannot solely rely on their skills to become successful. Your perception of society and your background plays a huge role in how you interact with others and who you meet. He births the idea of “10,000 hours to become a master at anything.” When looking at it from a macroscale, the elites are who they are because they hit those hours before anyone else. They were given the right opportunities at the right time.

I have mixed feelings about this book. I agree with Malcolm and believe that opportunities and your background play vital roles in determining success. However, I believe we have more control over our lives than we may realize. Talent and skill play a huge role and being able to seek opportunities are just as important. I agree that some opportunities are given to us. However, there are more opportunities that we must seek or earn. Just because you start somewhere different than where you want to end up, doesn’t mean you won’t end up where you want. Overall, I think this is a great read and helped me get a closer look into what it takes to be successful.

Thank you so much for reading this week’s post! I will be doing more book reviews like this. If you plan to read or have read this book, I would love to hear what you learned from it. Tune in next Sunday to read about Failures.

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Perfection

We spend so much of our time trying to be perfect, never realizing that we already are. I believe that perfection is just an illusion that was created to motivate us to keep growing. I realized that happiness doesn’t come from finally achieving “perfection.” It comes from striving for it. It is during the journey we learn more about ourselves. It is during the journey we realize our purpose. However, recently the purpose behind “perfection” has been changed with the influence of social media.

Social media has been revolutionary. You can follow your friends, family, or the famed from your couch no matter where they are in the world. You can learn more about their hobbies, interests, or personality. However, how much of it is actually true? How much of the content you see is truly them?

I recently noticed that a majority of the time we only showcase our “perfect” moments. You have to have the “right” lighting. You have to be with the “right” people. You have to be wearing the “right” clothes. We start believing this false perception of what life should be like. Instead of living our own purpose and ambitions, we start becoming someone else. We believe that if we want to be successful, then we have to act and be a certain way.

I had this same connotation for a long time. More often than not, I was posting not for myself but for others. I was posting to get attention. I was posting to “fit in.” I was posting to be liked. I believed that this is who I’m supposed to be and should follow these steps to achieve it. My happiness and self-worth were based on a number on a screen. It wasn’t until recently I realized that true genuine happiness is found within yourself. You have to find happiness within before you seek for it in the world.

Now, I’m not saying that social media is bad and everyone should delete it. Social media is a great way to share your life and connect with friends and family. It has impacted the communication industry in an ingenious way. All I want is that before you make a post, write a tweet, or add to your story, ask yourself whether it is really you doing it or someone else who you’re pretending to be. In my eyes, real “perfection” is found in the imperfections.

Thank you so much for reading this post! This is something I still struggle with today. The purpose of this whole blog is to relay this message. I am not perfect. I am human and I make mistakes. I use this as a medium to showcase everything I have learned. Let’s keep growing together! I would love to hear your thoughts! Please share with friends and family who would benefit from this. Tune in next Sunday to read about stress!

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